Wednesday, 17 October 2018

THE LOVE OF CHRIST.

"Greater love has no man than this, that a man lay down his life for his friends" - John 15:13
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From OT to the times of Jesus, no man has ever demonstrated love by sacrificing his life for the one he loved; but Jesus did.
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One of the basic things you need to know about the love of Christ is that it is sacrificial - doing something for another at a cost that is felt.
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Is your love for God and others sacrificial?
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David said to Aranuah, "Nay, I will surely buy it of you of a price, neither will I offer burned offering to the LORD my God of that which cost me nothing, so David bought the threshing floor and the oxen for fifty shekels of silver" (2 Sam. 24:24).
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Quite a number of us claimed we love Jesus but our demonstration of love cost us nothing. If He expressed sacrificial love for you by laying down His life, nothing is wrong when you go the extra mile to prove that you love Him.
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Sacrificial love expressed to God is not stupidity, though it may appear to men as such. However, expressing sacrificial love before men ought not to destroy the life of the offeror. It is ignorance to destroy your life in the name of demonstrating love to men.
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One of the least demonstration of sacrificial love is intercessory prayer - taking a person's case before God in prayers. How often do you do this?
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God's love is sacrificial. He gave us Jesus so that those who believe in Him would not perish but have everlasting life. Jesus Christ also did by laying down His life for you and I.
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Do you love Him sacrificially or emotionally?



By Adeniyi Tim Oluwamayowa.

Tuesday, 16 October 2018

Are You a Groomer or a Destroyer?

When it comes to roles and obligations, man and woman has their part to play in marriage and prior to marriage. 
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A man is expected to groom the woman who is also known as a bride and the bride is expected to be the groom's help meet. But it's quite unfortunate that lots of the male folks are destroyers. 
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Ordinary men destroys the lives of women around them but real men grooms women that comes into their lives. Are you a groomer or a ruiner?
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What makes you a man is not about how many rounds of sex you can go, it's not about how masculine or physically build you are; it has more to do with your ability to lead and groom others around you. 
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What's your disposition to women when they come into your life? To groom them or destroy them? 
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You're a ruiner if all you think or see in a woman is how sexy, sexually inviting or good in bed she's going to be. It doesn't mean if she came with the mindset of sex, if you can't groom her, run for your dear life. 
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You're a destroyer if all you want to recoup after taking care of her is sexual compensation. Do not forget that whatsoever a man sows, he'll reap. You cannot destroy a woman's life and expect to marry a virgin that no one has ever touched. God cannot be mocked o! 
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If your mindset is to take advantage of her because she's rich and you promised her marriage so that she can meet your financial needs, you're a ruiner. 
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Of what good is it when you go about sampling two or more women with the aim of finding who to marry? Instead of leaving them better than you found them, you made your entry into their lives worse, then you're a destroyer. 
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Becoming a man is a function of your ability to groom women even if you won't be married to them. However, it'll be impossible for you to groom her if... 
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1. You're carnal 
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Carnality is the root of all evil. If you walk in the flesh, you can't fulfill your mandate as a man. There's no one who live a carnal life that can become all that God wanted him or her to be. 
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A carnal man will never see anything wrong with demanding a proof of love from ladies via sex. A carnal man is naturally inclined to destroy souls for to be carnally minded is death (destruction).
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Signs that a man is carnal is when all he does is to gratify the deeds of his flesh. He touches you indecently, his words are erotic and his feelings are sensual. 
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Are you this kind of man? 
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2. You've not outgrown your old mindset 
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As a man thinks in his heart, so is he. You're shapened as a man based on your mindset. No man can treat a woman better than what his mindset has informed him. 
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There are some men whose belief is that women are to be full house wives, some believes that women are not to be heard while some think women are slaves or sex object. 
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How do you see women based on your mindset? 
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If you're ever going to treat a woman well, there must be a paradigm shift in your school of thought. You must unlearn, learn and relearn those things that would make you groom whichever women God brings into your life. 
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However, the only way for you to be a groomer is to be born again. He that is born of God has a new mindset and would walk more in the Spirit than to be carnally minded. 
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There are lots of men who goes to church but haven't encountered the God of the church. Are you still ruled by the deeds of your flesh? Are you still influenced by the will of men or your own will (mindset)?
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Come to Jesus. Be born of the incorruptible seed of the word of God and the Spirit. Worldly philosophies will corrupt and destroy you. But if you align your mindset with the word of God, it'll make you treasure and impact women positively without ruining their lives. 
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On a final note, dear men, women are like flowers. Treat them well, they'll blossom; treat your wife well and you'll enjoy the favor that comes with marrying a wife. 
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Don't be a destroyer, be a groomer. 
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© Oluwamayowa Adeniyi.