Monday, 16 July 2018

Single and Searching.

Mama T why is having the right spouse this difficult now? We don't have good men around anymore, all of them are the same and not godly. Why is that all the men i meet wants to have sex with me even the married are not left out, is something wrong with me? The temptation to yield to their request is becoming unbearable! Hmm, it is well in Jesus name.
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Having the right spouse begins with you, yes it starts with you, let me quickly say this, if you're not for God then you are for the devil directly or indirectly, isn't it? No one or nothing is empty even science said so, and it is not until you are an hardened criminal that you are for the devil, what about the sins you termed little or normal sins, I'm not writing on that today but this is just to buttress the fact that if you're not for God, you're for the devil and devil cannot give you anything good because he doesn't have it. You give what you are or have, if your life is being controlled by devil so it will not be surprising to meet people that will want you to sacrifice your body for a relationship!
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God is love and in Him can you find love, hold on yes I know some so called Christians may also ask you for sex, it simply means they are not yet regenerated, devil still have space to work on them, probably because of the little foxes that spoils the vineyard, the sins that easily beset which the Bible told us to beware of (Heb.12:1). Therefore, if such people (male or female) comes your way please tell them to go because you have been bought with a price and cannot defile the temple of God, tell them I know the God that I serve, He will give me the best in due time.
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Until you change your life pattern, until you make that decision, until you make yourself the right person by working out your relationship with God first, you will still be saying this same story. You are a Christian and you know that person is not right but you're bent on spending his/her money, hanging out with such people does not matter to you, even your communication with such fellow is tight, until you change that lifestyle before it will be right.
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This is not theoretical, I used to say this before too, virtually all the men I met wanted sex with me, I mean all men regardless of their title and status, all men and the sex could not keep the relationship as I thought it would! I became worried thinking I had a problem, I opened up to someone and was counseled but this scenario did not stop, until I returned to God, until I was regenerated inside out before I realized I'd wasted a lot, I'd sacrifice a lot all in the name of wanting to get a serious relationship and marry.
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Good news is when I made it right with God and fulfilling purpose, devil tried it again but no I have decided to follow Jesus, no turning back, I knew that person was not my husband and discarded immediately. My friends were getting engaged and married, but when it was right in the sight of God, ehn my father my God He gave me His son, a man that is always working to bring out the best in me, my number one fan and supporter, he showed me what real love is, accepted the whole of me and who is my husband today. He gave me Oluwasegun because He was sure I will take care of His son, God is caring about His own, He won't give you His own when you are not His genuinely! As my husband's name literally means, He really defeated the devil for me.
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Beloved, quit the ultimate search of spouse and make a decision to be for God, discover and pursue purpose, obey, follow and wait on God, He will give you the right one at the right time, yes it may look too long but it worth the waiting, I am a testimony. 
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Getting the right spouse begins with you!

Oluwatoyin Aremu.

Friday, 13 July 2018

U.B.A By Oluwatoyin Aremu

Okay I am not writing on the bank on your mind, smiles. This article is for women, we need to deposit a lot into this account termed ‘UBA’, and it simply means Understanding and Beautiful Appearance. To be a wise woman that will build your home, this is part of the bricks needed, understanding and beautiful appearance, the beautiful appearance is not only from the outside but from inside out.
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There was a woman in the bible who displayed a high level of understanding, she saved her entire household from destruction, she had the understanding which made her a queen eventually. She understood the dangers of procrastination and made haste to accomplish her task. Abigail as seen in 1Samuel 25:2-44 was described as a woman of good understanding and beautiful appearance but had a husband who was evil in his doings.
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She understood the impact or effect of calm words, she knows the importance of choosing words when speaking in tense situations. "A soft answer turns away wrath: but grievous words stir up anger" (Prov.15:1). There are so many lessons to be learnt for this woman, let us consider some;
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She put her understanding into action to avoid conflict. How do you handle crises to avoid conflicts in your home, are you the type of wife that will even fuel anger in your husband? You have to look into opening and depositing into this account which Abigail opened.
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Abigail was a rich woman, but even at that she remained humble. Some women are not only proud to outsiders but also to their husband especially when they probably have more than their husband. God sees the proud from afar but gives grace to the humble, for your home to be a blessing and peaceful, avoid pride.
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She chose to find solution than to nag her husband, even though she can confront him with anger to tell him how unreasonable he is to act that way and even remind him of how many times she has been telling him to work on his anger but she did not. Choose to find solution to problems than nagging, you can also settle matters on your knees and with calmness.
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She did not yield to fear, she walked up and faced a man who would one day rule over Israel; what is challenging your faith or your home? God has not given you the spirit of fear but of power and of love and of a sound mind. (2Tim.1:7). It is time to activate your boldness and exercise your faith because He needs your home to be a blessing.
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She was kind, she did not set her heart on her riches, nor did she look down on anyone and feel too big to lose her material possessions, she gave gifts. This is a call to hospitality, giving open doors to greater opportunity believe it.
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The life of Abigail speaks so loudly as to the impact a wise woman can have on the life of a man, invest into understanding as it is needed for every queen or woman to be beautiful and to have a peaceful home. He who finds a wife has found a good thing and obtain favour from the Lord, are you or will you be a favour or a frustration to your husband/would be husband? 


Oluwatoyin Aremu.

Thursday, 12 July 2018

Vessels Wanted!

This will be a short and direct to the point article. It is simply an invitation from our Maker, He is looking for vessels to use for His work. 
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The field is large but the labourers, I mean faithful labourers are few. Many are held captive in the bondage of sexual immoralities, indecent dressing, fashion abuse, internet and so on. Yet there are few laborers to get them out of this mess. 
God is counting on you for use, how ready are you for His work? Sin sinks but His grace is available to lift you up, let your life count. 
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It doesn't mean you must start as a minister or a public speaker but more importantly, let your life count, we are the Bible the world is reading, let Christ be read in your life. 
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Making yourself available means total commitment, commitment to meet the needs of people not necessary in monetary terms although it’s part of it but in other aspects of life too.
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Somebody is out there who needs your help to grow, are you ready to help such?
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Making yourself available means being sensitive to people you come in contact with, you don’t come in contact with people and vice versa by mistake, there is something to do in the life of that person. 
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Being available means that you realize that God is ordering your steps and life by bringing people to your path, online or offline. The more available you make yourself to Him, the more He will use you.
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A vessel for use will see people as God sees them. That someone open up to you does not automatically appoint you as a judge, let the church (which is us) stop seeing people with their confessed sin but see them as a ready vessel for the Master’s use! You were once a sinner but pulled out by His grace, God therefore sees you as a new creature and not with your past sins as it is erased. 
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If you then professed to be a little Christ or a child of this God that does not deal with you according to your sin but with mercy; then you have to act like Him and help others but not cast out.
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You were planned for God’s pleasure, formed for God’s family, created to become like Christ, shaped for service, and made for a mission! Each and every day of our lives we have the opportunity to be used of God. 
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Will today be the day you will allow God to use you, to tell the wonderful news about Jesus? Isaiah 6:8, can you say here I am too? 
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Remember, God is counting on you to deliver the world, to save the oppressed and preach His word, are you available?



By Oluwatoyin Aremu.

Wednesday, 11 July 2018

EMPTY HANDS.

This issue I’m writing about is like a thorn in my flesh. The rate at which young ladies are murdered these days is really alarming and I decided to dig deeper to see what exactly is the problem. Amidst other reasons is what I called "ladies' empty hands", the question is what is in your hands?
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I plead that you read this with an open heart, don’t get me wrong at all. I am not saying all of these killings are because of this topic, I said some especially going by the stories I heard. The Bible says in Psalm 55:22a that ‘Cast your cares on the LORD and He will sustain you’. Why then do we have ladies even in the church (I mean Christians) that have decided to cast their cares on men?
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It is not a crime to be an independent single or in a relationship, there is something in your hands that should make way for you but you have closed it up because you feel you have a faster ‘atm’ and unfortunately these brings more problem than you can think of.
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Not all date should be honoured, not all freebies should be taken, some are traps believe me. I heard of a lady that despite knowing the source of the supposed boyfriend's wealth, she still went ahead to keep the relationship because of the goodies and unfortunately she is paying dearly with her life right now as she is more or less a walking corpse. The present world we are now calls for extra carefulness and I really mean it. You need total dependence on God to move forward!
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You cannot afford to leave God out of your life, you cannot do it the world’s way and expects to have Godly result, it is never done that way! You have to first cultivate self-love, accept yourself with all your limitations, don’t compete with anyone, be yourself. It is not how far but how well. Have values and align with it, define who you are and with other people especially men, and they will respect you for that.
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Get something to do no matter how small it is, in it will God will bless and enlarge you, stop waiting for a man to be your financier instead see God as your source, I beg of you. God doesn't bless empty hands, find something godly to do. The rate at which stomach infrastructure is killing or destroying ladies now is getting too much, acquire knowledge; skilled or unskilled. Get it right with your Creator which is the most important part, He alone can help you, no matter how dark it is right now, there is always light at the end of the tunnel, just stick to Him I beg you.
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It is not a must for you to be in a relationship, it is not a must for the man to be lavishing material things on you like some other people (this is not to say men should be stingy though), all that matters is finding something profitable and godly to do with your hands and doing it with all your might. Take yourself out, treat yourself well, cut off from any eat and give (material things and sex or romance in return) relationship and get focused on who God wants you to be!
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Don't become a sex bank. You are far more than that my darling sisters, you are a special creation, created for a special assignment. Like my sister Esther Omoniyi said, you are a woman on a divine assignment and the time to effect this change is NOW because you are important to God, me, and the generations you carry.
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Let your hands not be empty; your gift, not your boyfriend, beauty or what your mama gave you will make way for you.
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Oluwatoyin Aremu.

Tuesday, 10 July 2018

RELIGION OR CHRISTIANITY.

I remember asking someone to tell me why He thinks he's a Christian, he said he attends church every Sunday, so also weekly service, pays his tithe and other contributions in church. Yes he is right at least to some extent, as Christians we are not expected to forsake the gathering of fellow believers but it is not all about that.
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I am not writing this article to encourage non-payment of tithe, not going to church and others but I am writing to let us know that there is difference between being religious and being a Christian. These days people are fast becoming so religious that they do not bother to even check their personal walk with God.
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There is a great difference between 'Churchianity' and 'Christianity'. Many are going to church but few are going down the road which leads to life, I am not judging anyone please, I want us to examine our lives, are we truly Christians?
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For some, they feel it is their money that matters to God, they boast of paying all necessary dues and even give very well to any project but their heart is far from God, hear me this morning, your money into the work of God does not make you a Christian. Attending all church service does not automatically make you a Christian too, if you think sitting in church will make you a Christian, try sitting in the garage to see if you'll become a car.
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Christianity is not about signing up for a religion; it is about being born into the family of God (born again, John 3:3) and not a Christian family, it is a relationship of a father and child. When you join His family through faith in the death and resurrection of Jesus, the Holy Spirit comes to live inside your heart (2 Cor. 1:21–22). He then empowers you to live like children of the King.
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He does not ask you to try to attain holiness by your own strength, as religion does. He asks that your old self be crucified with Him so that His power can live through you (Gal. 2:20; Rom. 6:6) and there is no way you will crucify your old self and still be living in it. You automatically become regenerated and do all things to glorify the father who called you from darkness into light and made you a light.
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Quit the school of thought that says ‘this is how we do in my church and so it must be’, it is not about your denomination, it is about God, right standing with God, it is about checking if whatever doctrine you have or believe in tallies with the Word of God. Beloved; God wants us to know Him, to draw near to Him, to pray to Him, and love Him above everything and that is not religion; it is a relationship.
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Are you a really Christian?

By Oluwatoyin Aremu.