Monday, 18 June 2018

WHO ARE YOU?

Anabel is a young dark in complexion beautiful lady who wishes to have a sweet relationship that will lead to marriage and so she was ready to do her best in order to make any relationship she's in to work. Not so long, she met this dude named Dennis, things clicked and they were together.
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Dennis kept complaining he wished that she can tone up a little, as he has a soft spot for fair ladies. She obliged and sooner she was getting fairer as the relationship progresses. One thing led to another and the relationship ended, she was broken and shattered.
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Not too long, she was in another relationship and this time she was to add a little weight as she was skinny. She did joined the choir because the brother she admired was in the choir even though she wasn't finding the unit funny but she remained there to please her man.
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If that relationship ends again, because it is actually a time bomb awaiting explosion as the brother is already complaining that she is not too spiritual; my question is what becomes of her? What if another person wished that she was darker, what will she do?
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Now many of you both male and female are like that. You have suddenly become a chameleon, changing to every environment because of relationship or 'love'. You even work for God because he/she is there and wants you there not that you know where you belong. 
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Many of you hold on to a relationship as if your life depends on it for survival. You have misplaced your self-worth and the problem with connecting your relationship status with your self-worth is that you cling to the relationship while disregarding the red flags. I learned the hard way that when one connects his/her worth with anything outside of him/herself, you're just setting yourselves up for pain and more unhappiness.
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It is important that you take your time to define yourselves in a realistic, simple way and you will be able to see clearly when others are trying to define you in their own terms or in relation to what they want you to be. 
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After God, you're to be in control of yourself, you’re the one who should create a life for yourself and when you're in a relationship you still should control your life. Don't lose yourself in the game of relationship as relationship thrives well when the two brings something to the table and not when a party dictates how it will be and so be it. 
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Kings as wise as they might appear, need counselors and nothing does greater than the queen being the chief counselor of her man or he'll get himself a confidant and that will be rivalry which means acquire knowledge as much as you can
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More so I know quite a number of people who are single that are living out their life meaningfully; if relationship is what defined people, then singles will be nobody! Build a life outside relationship, know who you are, know what you stand for and what you want in life.
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If you don't know who you are, you'll be used for what you're not.

By Oluwatoyin Aremu.

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