Cooking Wife.

Civilization or socialization cannot, will not and shall not take away cooking as one of the duties of a good woman. 
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I was told of some ladies that sees cooking as a no-go area, they do not believe in getting things done in the kitchen, to them it is very stressful and so they prefer someone doing it for them. Okay, I am not against someone helping you but not always and not your husband’s meal please!
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Marriage is not only in intimacy, companionship, togetherness, same clothing, and so on; it also has something to do with cooking, and not necessarily expensive but a delicious meal with the little ingredients you have or can afford. 
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A meal is not really delicious because of the variety of ingredients in it but in the manner of cooking and presenting it. Do not serve food and heap it like a sacrifice, spice up the table and arrange the food properly.
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Quote me, cooking has nothing to do with an obligation but it has everything to do with your heart and choice. It's your choice to feed your husband and care for his welfare because you love him. And it's a choice to relegate it to your house maid's duty but I'm sure you know the consequence. 
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I love seeing the joy on my husband’s face, the satisfaction he has whenever he eats my food even when I think or feels it is not delicious enough. But he takes it and bless me, he appreciates it and he's always looking forward to having more like an Oliver Twist (smiles).
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If you cannot cook it is not the end of the world, do not condemn yourself; go online and check out recipes. I do that a lot especially on food that is not my regular type or that's from another tribe; join groups that teaches cooking skills.
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Please, do not go beyond your budget, learn how to manage what you have and can afford, learn how to fix quick breakfast and dinner, food crafts to make children eat, make quick fresh fruit juices or smoothies, snacks and so on. Arrange your kitchen in a way that pleases you so that cooking will be easy.
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Yes it may be stressful at times, that is where your husband should help. And you as a man can also help in fixing the meal for the family, it is not a crime, it also shows your commitment to see your wife glow lest she looks older than her age due to stress.
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Do not forget that the topic is 'A cooking wife' and not 'A cooking girlfriend'. Don’t go about performing wifely duties to someone you are not married to, do not play with fire!
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I think it won’t be bad if we connect to share recipes and ideas, I’m open to learning please, (smiles). 
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However, the bottom line is this: learn to feed your man very well, it shows how much you care for his welfare. Remove the career, business or ministerial calling and attend to this calling named cooking. 
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And to my single ladies, use this period to learn as much as you can when it comes to making good meal. Don't be a lazy cook. Don't leave everything to your house maid. 
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Remember, there are good cooks out there who are trying to win your husband's heart, not only with sex but with a good meal.
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Nevertheless, a well fed, God-fearing and disciplined man will despise a strange woman's food.




By Oluwatoyin Aremu.