Friday, 6 July 2018

MARRIAGE CLASSES.

Everyone desire to get married and yes it is not bad but it can go bad when you are not well prepared for it. As much as we know that marriage is an institution you get certificate before the commencement of classes, exams or tests but good to know that there are pre-classes that will do you a whole lot of good.
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What then are these pre-classes? I'll list some out so that you can utilize them in preparation for this journey of life. Don't forget that wedding is a day but marriage is a life time, so there is need for preparation, it is sad that many youths avoid these classes and follow mundane things, let’s consider them.
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1. God
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This is the first and most important class; how good is your relationship with God? It is your sync with Him that will give you the Holy Spirit and the understanding of the Bible which will help you in the choosing the right one. I want to believe we all know that when it is not spiritually right, it won't be right physically because the spiritual controls the physical.
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2. Books
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How many books have you read about marriage? Some says, it is not about the book you read, it is about what you know or thereabouts. Now how will you know if you don't read? Even the bible said 'have you not read', God expects you to read, knowledge gained is not lost. There is no crime in reading about godly courtship, marriage, sex and parenting, read books.
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But it's inadvisable to read books that are sexually inciting if you're not engaged to be married soon.
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3. Seminars
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Seminars or talk show on courtship/marriage is a great deal, I feel bad when I see singles even married avoid such, they see it as, 'it is not a must'. I want to tell you, the next time you hear of such meetings; make it a date there, it is an atmosphere for direct learning and questions are trashed in many ways. Instead of going to a friend where most times you will be the lead adviser again, go for marriage/relationship seminars.
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You didn't hear about such right? Your friend/roommate says he/she is going for a meeting and you won't ask which one, all you do is to wave him/her bye, too bad. 
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There is this popular Yoruba movie that I saw, where a lady told her friend that she was going for rehearsals. The lady immediately asked, 'which rehearsal' and that was how she got to know about a dance class which changed her life. Had it been all she did was the usual 'ok, bye', she would have remain worthless. 
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Ask and when you get to the seminar, please switch off your searching bluetooth and concentrate, if you have to connect or engage with the opposite sex, let it be after the program please.
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4. A Mentor
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Like I do say, you have to carefully choose who mentors you so that you won't be misled. And how careful can you be careful? It is just by following the leading of God. This must be someone you can easily access, I'm not talking of a role model, a mentor is someone you can freely talk to about anything. I have too! Mentors are valuable, get a godly one.
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5. Marriage counseling
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All things are set and wedding is in view, you will need a section where the two of you will be under counsel, I hope many churches do this, they do in my place of worship and I must say it is awesome. This is also to tell you that, your spiritual leaders are not to be left out.
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I'll be stopping here, I advise you to look into these pre-classes and ensure you enroll into two or more not forgetting that the first one is of paramount importance and needs additional one out of the stated ones. Be sure all things are godly and glorifies God!
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I pray for you, your marriage will be a channel of blessing, a fountain of joy, fruitfulness in all aspect and it will glorify God in Jesus name.
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Shalom


By Oluwatoyin Aremu.

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