Wednesday, 18 July 2018

Random Etiquettes 3.

As much as this article applies to everyone, I want those who have been called to the Light to please take note with all seriousness. You have been made a light and so you must show this light everywhere and in everything you do, don't forget I said this is also to everyone.
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I'll be hitting the nail on the head as much as possible, please bear with me as we need to trash out this issue. 
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Indecent dressing is not only when you wear revealing clothes, it is also when you dress shabbily; taking care of your body is and will continue to be godly. Our motto should be modesty and not unkempt look, your smile, composure, and sitting position is highly important.
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Sisters, please choose your camisole and bra based on the cloth you're wearing. Wearing camisole or tube is to avoid revealing bra, body and breast when it’s a transparent cloth like chiffon, don't therefore choose a colour that will announce it.
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Please use mouth spray or chew mint gum if you have mouth odour, button up neatly, have good hair styles/haircut.
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Next to this is character. Your character makes you, it defines you, you are not to fit in, you are to stand out in this world.
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I will choose respect under this, the level of disrespect in Christendom is alarming, and that you can chat with an elderly person should not give room for disrespect! Words like ‘hey’ ‘sup’ ‘hiya’ and so on are not meant for someone who is obviously elderly and someone you do not know. Start with pleasantries, introduce yourself if it’s the first time chatting and continue with the discussion. Courtesy is important!
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Do not be boastful, arrogant or loud - always exercise restraint, you cannot just call some persons by their name even when you feel you are in the same age range let alone younger. Be humble and show respect, it doesn’t hurt, it only shows your sound character (1Pet.5:5).
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Before speaking to others consider what effect your words will have. Don't say thoughtless, unkind words, pause and weigh your words carefully and say them in the right manner. Be hospitable and friendly, always say, “Thank you” - this is a way of praising others and one of the keys of good manners; not forgetting “Excuse me”, “Please”, “You are welcome”.
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Be thankful for any deed no matter how small it may be. Respect people's time and be punctual; when you give your word or promise something,try to fulfill it or explain to the person involved why you cannot fulfill it at the agreed time. I will stop here for now, you can check my blog for other etiquettes.
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Remember, good manners they say, will open doors that the best education cannot and I will say good manners will open doors that the best education, beauty, wealth, swags cannot, be a light in all you do.


By Oluwatoyin Aremu.

Tuesday, 17 July 2018

D.T.R.

I listened to a music this morning and it moved me to prayers, it says my tomorrow must be greater than today, I decree and declare that my/your tomorrow, will be greater than my/your today in Jesus name but we also have a part to this so that this prayer will not be in vain and it is called D.T.R which means Discover to Recover.
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For your tomorrow to be greater than your today, you must examine what you are using your today to do, are they profitable or edifying things? As a secondary school student or leaver, when you ought to focus on your studies to build a career for yourself, are you not expending that energy on mundane activities, internet always, are you not more connected to your emotion than your direction?
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For your tomorrow to be greater than your today; what you need first is not a relationship, it is God and your career. Do not light the candle of passion when you are not ready to let it glow! I had a relationship at an early stage and it caused a turn of destiny for me, it broke me, shattered my dreams, I was embarrassed, cast down, I became a bad example in the eyes of many, it took years before I realized I needed to return to my maker for a good turn around I must say it wasn’t an easy experience but God brought me out and reshaped my life and today I am who He wants me to be.
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Experience is not a good teacher because you may not be alive to tell the experience or recover from the experience; the more you sink in sin, the more you lose many things God has in stock for you but it is time to discover and recover if you are ready. My dear Undergraduates, for your tomorrow to be greater than today, how much of good fruits are you planting to expect a good harvest?
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Are you lost in the shackles of immoral dressing, night clubbing, drinking, womanizing, cheating, bribery, fornication, deceit and lying? You are the brother/sister at home but the happening bae/dude on campus, cohabiting does not matter in your case, don’t forget that for every action there is a reaction and which can spoil your tomorrow, it is time to recover!
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Workers (public and private sector); how truthful are you to your work, are you not using your position to cheat or destroy others? A lady cannot seek for job or help where you are except she pays in kind, pen stealing is not far from you, it is time to recover for a better tomorrow. Married men and women, are you faithful to your vow? What God has joined together, let no man put asunder, has suspicion, hatred, anger, infidelity, sexual denial, bad friends, foul languages, disrespect not put asunder?
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How much of time do you have for your spouse, do you even pray for him/her, how well are you representing Christ to your children? It is time to recover! Ministers of God, are you doing it the way God wants?
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Let me stop there, now that you have discovered what can disrupt your tomorrow; it is time to recover. Ask God for forgiveness anywhere you have defaulted and plead for mercy. You are going to say this prayer; (please pray) Oh Lord my father, help me not to be an architect of destruction to the better tomorrow you have for me, direct my path and give me grace to follow. I recover all that I have lost in the name of Jesus. Please sing this song genuinely as it is being impressed on my heart right now;
Song: Give me grace to follow,
Abundant grace to follow,
Give me grace to follow
Your grace is enough for me
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God is set to deliver you if you are ready!
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Oluwatoyin Aremu

Monday, 16 July 2018

Single and Searching.

Mama T why is having the right spouse this difficult now? We don't have good men around anymore, all of them are the same and not godly. Why is that all the men i meet wants to have sex with me even the married are not left out, is something wrong with me? The temptation to yield to their request is becoming unbearable! Hmm, it is well in Jesus name.
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Having the right spouse begins with you, yes it starts with you, let me quickly say this, if you're not for God then you are for the devil directly or indirectly, isn't it? No one or nothing is empty even science said so, and it is not until you are an hardened criminal that you are for the devil, what about the sins you termed little or normal sins, I'm not writing on that today but this is just to buttress the fact that if you're not for God, you're for the devil and devil cannot give you anything good because he doesn't have it. You give what you are or have, if your life is being controlled by devil so it will not be surprising to meet people that will want you to sacrifice your body for a relationship!
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God is love and in Him can you find love, hold on yes I know some so called Christians may also ask you for sex, it simply means they are not yet regenerated, devil still have space to work on them, probably because of the little foxes that spoils the vineyard, the sins that easily beset which the Bible told us to beware of (Heb.12:1). Therefore, if such people (male or female) comes your way please tell them to go because you have been bought with a price and cannot defile the temple of God, tell them I know the God that I serve, He will give me the best in due time.
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Until you change your life pattern, until you make that decision, until you make yourself the right person by working out your relationship with God first, you will still be saying this same story. You are a Christian and you know that person is not right but you're bent on spending his/her money, hanging out with such people does not matter to you, even your communication with such fellow is tight, until you change that lifestyle before it will be right.
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This is not theoretical, I used to say this before too, virtually all the men I met wanted sex with me, I mean all men regardless of their title and status, all men and the sex could not keep the relationship as I thought it would! I became worried thinking I had a problem, I opened up to someone and was counseled but this scenario did not stop, until I returned to God, until I was regenerated inside out before I realized I'd wasted a lot, I'd sacrifice a lot all in the name of wanting to get a serious relationship and marry.
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Good news is when I made it right with God and fulfilling purpose, devil tried it again but no I have decided to follow Jesus, no turning back, I knew that person was not my husband and discarded immediately. My friends were getting engaged and married, but when it was right in the sight of God, ehn my father my God He gave me His son, a man that is always working to bring out the best in me, my number one fan and supporter, he showed me what real love is, accepted the whole of me and who is my husband today. He gave me Oluwasegun because He was sure I will take care of His son, God is caring about His own, He won't give you His own when you are not His genuinely! As my husband's name literally means, He really defeated the devil for me.
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Beloved, quit the ultimate search of spouse and make a decision to be for God, discover and pursue purpose, obey, follow and wait on God, He will give you the right one at the right time, yes it may look too long but it worth the waiting, I am a testimony. 
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Getting the right spouse begins with you!

Oluwatoyin Aremu.

Friday, 13 July 2018

U.B.A By Oluwatoyin Aremu

Okay I am not writing on the bank on your mind, smiles. This article is for women, we need to deposit a lot into this account termed ‘UBA’, and it simply means Understanding and Beautiful Appearance. To be a wise woman that will build your home, this is part of the bricks needed, understanding and beautiful appearance, the beautiful appearance is not only from the outside but from inside out.
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There was a woman in the bible who displayed a high level of understanding, she saved her entire household from destruction, she had the understanding which made her a queen eventually. She understood the dangers of procrastination and made haste to accomplish her task. Abigail as seen in 1Samuel 25:2-44 was described as a woman of good understanding and beautiful appearance but had a husband who was evil in his doings.
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She understood the impact or effect of calm words, she knows the importance of choosing words when speaking in tense situations. "A soft answer turns away wrath: but grievous words stir up anger" (Prov.15:1). There are so many lessons to be learnt for this woman, let us consider some;
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She put her understanding into action to avoid conflict. How do you handle crises to avoid conflicts in your home, are you the type of wife that will even fuel anger in your husband? You have to look into opening and depositing into this account which Abigail opened.
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Abigail was a rich woman, but even at that she remained humble. Some women are not only proud to outsiders but also to their husband especially when they probably have more than their husband. God sees the proud from afar but gives grace to the humble, for your home to be a blessing and peaceful, avoid pride.
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She chose to find solution than to nag her husband, even though she can confront him with anger to tell him how unreasonable he is to act that way and even remind him of how many times she has been telling him to work on his anger but she did not. Choose to find solution to problems than nagging, you can also settle matters on your knees and with calmness.
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She did not yield to fear, she walked up and faced a man who would one day rule over Israel; what is challenging your faith or your home? God has not given you the spirit of fear but of power and of love and of a sound mind. (2Tim.1:7). It is time to activate your boldness and exercise your faith because He needs your home to be a blessing.
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She was kind, she did not set her heart on her riches, nor did she look down on anyone and feel too big to lose her material possessions, she gave gifts. This is a call to hospitality, giving open doors to greater opportunity believe it.
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The life of Abigail speaks so loudly as to the impact a wise woman can have on the life of a man, invest into understanding as it is needed for every queen or woman to be beautiful and to have a peaceful home. He who finds a wife has found a good thing and obtain favour from the Lord, are you or will you be a favour or a frustration to your husband/would be husband? 


Oluwatoyin Aremu.