Singles.

I know many will desire or plan to be engaged or get married this year, yes it is good but before you finalize that decision, you have to quickly do some check up on yourself please.

First thing first, how's your relationship with God? Are you the type that thinks the only time to get close to God is when marriage is in view?

Let's get this straight, to have it right this year not even about marriage alone, you need to get your relationship with God right. I am not saying be a worker in church or look like a Christian nor bear a Christian name, I mean giving your heart/life to God. Don't forget, when you place your heart in the hands of God, He will place it in the hand of the right person at the right time, be found in God.

Secondly, what is your vision statement, have you discovered purpose? A man/woman of vision attracts same, don't just stay idle waiting for the right one, get busy fulfilling purpose in God too. Serve God this year genuinely and not because of a partner and don't forget that not everyone in church is good for you neither is everyone in church a Christian, so switch off your searching WiFi and concentrate on God.

Next to that is character, a very important part. You're too hostile, always moody, respect is an issue, even the smallest courtesy is far from you, it is not love alone that can keep a relationship or get you a spouse, character does too. When it comes to choosing a husband or wife, one thing after God that really, truly matters is: character!

It also has to do with your choice of words, what do you say or how do you relate with people in words, it also has to do with being a home keeper/builder as a woman, how much of a wife are you? It is important to know how to cook and keep the home as a woman which does not mean men shouldn't know that too. I won't write more on this for now.

The last thing for today is patience, you do not need to rush yourself into something you are not physically, emotionally, financially and even spiritually ready for. Do not forget that your timing is different from the person next to you. Many promising courtship are destroyed for lack of intelligent foresight, misplaced ideology about male/female sexuality, and abuse of human intimacy.

Never rush into a relationship so that you won't rush out of it. Don't rush anything, when the time is right, it'll happen, don't forget you may be delayed so that you can work on yourself. As the saying goes, "If it's meant to be, it'll be!!" He hath made every thing beautiful in his time (Ecc.3:11). All you need do is to allow God lead you, it may not be easy when it seems like it's getting late but be rest assured that you will get there with Jesus on your side.

I stand as a living testimony and I pray as He did it for me, He will do more for you in the name of Jesus, amen.

Confession: Jesus take the lead

Prayer: Lord Jesus, help me to serve you genuinely; to also wait patiently on you for my spouse and help me to be the right one.

Oluwatoyin Aremu.